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Astarion/Approval

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Astarion likes displays of power and cruelty, and appreciates snarkiness and mocking. He is inspired when the player gains access to areas/information by deceiving others. The player does not have to be "evil" to gain his approval, however — he approves when the player makes choices that support independence and autonomy, and when the player helps certain characters in need.

Astarion dislikes displays of weakness and does not like acts of kindness or charity that offer no reward. He disapproves when the player tries to rein him in or restrict him in some way.

The actions and choices listed on this page will raise or lower Astarion's Approval.

For more information about the approval system, see Approval.

Greetings

Depending on his approval rating, Astarion may greet the player with:

Negative (<0):

  • “You again.”
  • "What do you need now?"
  • "You're staring at me again. What do you want?"

Neutral (0 - 19):

  • "Well, hello. What can I do for you?"
  • “Yes?"
  • “Need Something?”

Medium and up (20+):

  • "Ah, my favourite travelling companion."
  • "Hello, my dear."
  • "What can I do for you, my friend?"

When spoken to by someone other than the player character:

  • "Sorry, darling, I haven't got time for underlings. If your boss wants to speak with me, I'm all pointy ears."

Romance

Flirting:

  • "It's always a pleasure to see you sauntering over."
  • "Yes, darling?"
  • "Hello, beautiful."
  • "I did miss that face, you know."
  • "Hello, my sweet."
  • "Hello, lover."
  • "Yes darling, do you need something?"
  • "Need something? Or did you just miss me?"

Partnered:

  • "Gods, you're beautiful."
  • "Is there something you want to talk about, my dear?"

Broken up:

  • "Why in the hells are you bothering me now?"

After Completing The Pale Elf

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Ascended - Partnered:

  • "Look at you, precious thing. You always stare so eagerly."
  • "Ask me anything, and it will be yours."
  • "Little love, whatever could be the matter?"
  • "My consort, we are so close to our triumph, I can almost taste it."
  • "Yes, my treasure?"

Spawn - Partnered:

  • "Ah, you're so adorable when you're thinking what to say."
  • "I hope there's nothing troubling you, my dear?"
  • "Yes, love?"

Dark Urge exclusive

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Astarion also has some greetings exclusive to the Dark Urge origin. He will only say these once:

  • "You have a manner of irresistible desperation about you. I like it." (first meeting)
  • "My sweet, conflicted villain. What can I do for you?" (after killing Isobel)
  • "Come to kill me again, darling?" (when romanced, if the player fully refrained from killing him after failing to kill Isobel)
  • "My dagger-happy friend. What troubles you?" (after killing Alfira)
  • "Precious little Bhaal-Babe!" (after the player discovers the truth about their parentage in Act 3)
"The child of Bhaal. I'm glad papa has blessed our dirty little plot" (when romanced, after player becomes Bhaal's chosen)

Approval

The following story and dialogue choices will cause Astarion to gain approval.

Act One

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Roadside Cliffs

  • Speaking with the Tieflings holding Lae'zel in a cage, choose the 'attack' option. Astarion approves +1
    • Ask Lae'zel to say 'please' after convincing the tieflings to leave. Astarion approves +1
  • Speaking to Gimblebock near Chapel Entrance, choose the 'attack' dialogue option Astarion approves +1

Emerald Grove/The Hollow

In the Hollow:

  • Refuse to help Zevlor with persuading druids to let the tieflings stay. Astarion approves +2
  • Scold Elegis for being scared of a few goblins OR tell her to get to digging their own graves. Astarion approves +1 (either)
  • While speaking with Arron, say the refugees will be fine due to their devilish powers. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell the tielfling kids trained by Asharak that they are going to die. Astarion approves +1
  • Make Zorru bow to Lae'zel. Astarion approves +1
    • After Lae'zel has questioned Zorru, tell her she is good at interrogations. Astarion approves +1
  • Offer to heal Pandirna for a price but pocket the money and leave. Astarion approves +1
  • Let Arka shoot Sazza. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Auntie Ethel about the tadpole in your head. Astarion approves +1
  • While talking to/trading with Mattis, mimic his trick and then either pocket the ring straightaway OR tell him you've earned it. Astarion approves +1
  • Threaten Mol when first meeting her in the Tiefling Hideout. Astarion approves +1

* After successfully stealing the Idol of Silvanus for Mol, tell her that you will keep it for yourself

    • OR Playing as a Rogue, tell her to stop bargaining about the idol Astarion approves +1

In the Sacred Pool and druid caves:

  • After resolving Arabella's fate, tell Kagha that you would have killed the girl outright. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Tell her you just wanted to see what would happen. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Tell her that it was quite a show. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Attack her. Astarion approves +1
  • If Arabella has died, lie to Locke and Komira that Kagha will release her soon. Astarion approves +1
  • When confronting Kagha about the Shadow Druids, choose to attack her instead of persuading her. Astarion approves +1
    • OR If tried to persuade Kagha to fight against Shadow Druids and failed, attack her. Astarion approves +1
  • Prod Nettie's bird twice. Astarion approves +1
  • Attack Nettie (no need to kill her) Astarion approves +5
  • While dealing with Topaz the bird via Speak with Animals:
    • Tell him that the key in its nest is dull, OR, playing as a Dwarf, that the metal is of bad quality Astarion approves +1 (either option)
    • OR Playing as a Bard, choose the class-specific option about a song Astarion approves +1
    • OR Kick the bird Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Bard, talk to the squirrels listening to Alfira and first hush them not to ruin the song, and only afterwards the class-unique line "Sing along…" Astarion approves +1
  • Take Alfira's lute out of her hands and smash it Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Alfira she should give up on her song Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Rogue, pick Mirkon's pockets while he is charmed by the harpies. Astarion approves +1
  • After saving Mirkon, tell him to stop snivelling or the harpies will be back. Astarion approves +1
  • Kick Timber the squirrel Astarion approves +1.
    • If you miss, try to kick her again Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as The Dark Urge, when confronted by a companion about kicking Timber, say she came right at you OR that your instincts are sharp Astarion approves +1 (either option)

While the Emerald Grove is preparing for the goblin attack

  • Tell Zevlor (or Asharak if Zevlor is dead) that you are here to take the grove for the goblins/came here with the goblins. Astarion approves +5
  • As The Dark Urge, tell Zevlor the goblin horde is yours. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Mirkon you are not here to save them. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Lakrissa to buy you a drink. Astarion approves +1
  • If you start attacking the tieflings before Minthara arrives, betray her while speaking to her. Astarion approves +5
  • Tell Pandirna that you are here for the show Astarion approves +1

Forest

Sunlit Wetlands/Putrid Bog

  • While talking to Demir and Johl after Auntie Ethel disappears, tell them they're on their own Astarion approves +1
  • After entering the Sunlit Wetlands, break the illusion by any available means, then say 'BAA' at the Redcaps when you speak to them Astarion approves +1 (works twice)
  • Tell Auntie Ethel about the tadpole (if you haven't done so in the grove). Astarion approves +1
  • Let Astarion kill Gandrel, if you already know he's a vampire. Astarion approves +10

Blighted Village

  • Gain entrance to the village by either:
    • Attacking or picking a fight with the goblin guard at any gate Astarion approves +1
    • OR by persuading the goblin guard at the eastern gate Astarion approves +1
    • OR Playing as a Bard, performing for the booyahg guard at the southern gate. Astarion approves +1
  • Intimidate Ornate Mirror in the Apothecary's Cellar into letting you pass. Astarion approves +1
  • Give Astarion the Necromancy of Thay during the cutscene. Astarion approves +5
  • Deliver the final blow to Fezzerk when confronting him near the windmill Astarion approves +1
    • Untie Barcus Wroot off the windmill wing and demand a compensation from him Astarion approves +1
  • Interrupt the bugbear and ogre couple in the barn Astarion approves +1
    • OR let Astarion interrupt them. Astarion approves +5

Note: The latter option is available only if neither Shadowheart nor Wyll are in the party, otherwise one of them would interfere and try to stop the player

Goblin Camp
At the front gate:

  • Fling worg dung at Sentinel Olak Astarion approves +1 (triggers a fight with gate guards)

At the outer camp:

  • Yell "Boo, get off the stage!" at Volo as he performs. Astarion approves +1
  • Stir the Owlbear Cub against the goblins through DC 15 Animal Handling check or DC 15 Persuasion check Astarion approves +1
  • When Krolla tries to scam you after you won in chicken-chasing, demand your gold back and also all of hers, using illithid powers. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Tracker Grikka that you will get answers from prisoners. Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as a Dwarf, ask Grikka to save a piece of dwarf meat for you. Astarion approves +1
  • Steal the ring from Crusher's foot after you kneel in front of him. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Make Crusher kneel and kiss your foot. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Make Crusher kiss your foot after defeating him in a fight. Astarion approves +1
    • Continue to attack Crusher after he is defeated, if he attacks you.Astarion approves +1 (makes the whole camp hostile)
  • Successfully use Detect Thoughts on Crusher and say you'll let his boss know of his plans Astarion approves +1

Inside the Shattered Sanctum:

  • If Warrior Trinzas questions you about the ruckus, tell her, it was the sound of her friends dying. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Torturer Spike to let you show him how it's done. Astarion approves +1
    • OR, playing as a Drow, tell him that you don't try, you get results Astarion approves +1
    • Then torture Liam yourself. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Roah Moonglow that you killed her friends in the Zhentarim Hideout. Astarion approves +1
  • Agree to endure Abdirak's teachings on Loviatar's doctrine. Astarion approves +5
  • Pick a fight with Priestess Gut in the throne room or in her chambers. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Minthara that Sazza was too stupid to understand you prior Astarion approves +1
    • OR playing as a Drow say that she should have immediately recognize you as her superior. Astarion approves +1
  • Agree to attack the Grove with Minthara with or without asking for a reward. Astarion approves +1

In Worg Pens:

  • Tell goblin children to keep at the bear, aim for his eye, or to use sharper stones. Astarion approves +1
    • Throw a rock yourself. Astarion approves +1 (Makes Halsin hostile)
  • Turn down Halsin's request to help him save the grove in favor of saving yourself first. Astarion approves +1

The Risen Road

  • Side with Karlach during Wyll's confrontation with her and recruit Karlach. Astarion approves +2
  • At the tollhouse, tell the merchant Cyrel that you'll take the supplies and everything else she owns. Astarion approves +1 (triggers a fight with 'Tyrians')
  • Order Flind to attack the survivors in the cave instead of you. Astarion approves +1
  • OR/THEN order Flind to attack other gnolls. Astarion approves +1
    • After the battle is resolved, order Flind to off herself. Astarion approves +1

Note: These options are not mutually exclusive and can be used one after another subsequently, in given order, which allows to gain all three points

  • Tell Rugan that you are here for the cargo, not to rescue him. Astarion approves +1

Zhentarim Hideout

  • Kill Rugan on Zarys's order. Astarion approves +1
  • Kill Rugan, if he survived Zarys's torture and your fight against other Zentharim. Astarion approves +1
  • After purchasing Oskar Fevras from Brem, speak to the artist and call him a slave twice Astarion approves +1

Waukeen's Rest

Underdark

  • In Festering Cove, tell BOOOAL he is a fake god and tell him you will kill him and take his power Astarion approves +5
    • OR Tell Kuo-toa priest to bow before BOOOAL's Chosen Astarion approves +1
  • Agree to Defeat the Duergar Intruders for Sovereign Spaw Astarion approves +1
  • When speaking with Glut after defeating the duergar:
    • Agree to eliminate Spaw for Glut. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Refuse Glut saying that you'll have no part of this OR that you'll kill the treacherous myconid instead. Astarion approves +1 (either option brings approval and immediately starts fight with Glut)
  • Steal Boots of Speed from Thulla while she's helpless. Astarion approves +1
  • Ask Baelen for compensation before throwing him a Misty Step scroll to escape the Bibberbang field. Astarion approves +1
  • Push Corsair Greymon off of the boat on your first voyage to Grymforge. Astarion approves +1

Grymforge

  • Tell Morghal and Orgarth that them keeping slaves is not a problem for you, and that you'll just kill them Astarion approves +1 (immediately starts a fight with the duergar, both Clan Flameshade and Absolute followers)

When dealing with Ward Magmar:

    • Ask Magmar how to get a slave of your own. Astarion approves +1
    • When attempting to take the elevator, tell Magmar that saving Nere is a distraction Astarion approves +1
    • When talking about travelling to Moonrise Towers, say that Moonrise holds the answers you need. Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as a Drow or as a Githyanki, tell Magmar that he is squandering his slave on mundane tasks. Astarion approves +1
    • After killing Magmar and Pistle, tell Skickpit to use the elevator to surface. Astarion approves +1 (further options to convince the gnome won't bring more approval)
  • When Lunkbug tells you where to find Philomeen, answer that you'll take her head for a trophy. Astarion approves +1
    • After finding Philomeen (and letting her go away), talk to Lunkbug and mention she wants Laridda to move on, or tell Laridda directly. Astarion approves +1
  • Provoke a fight against Elder Brithvar by either taunting him to try and take your gold OR suggesting to rat him out to Sergeant Thrinn about his conspiracy against Nere Astarion approves +1
  • After rescuing Nere, tell him to finish the slaves, OR choose to say nothing Astarion approves +1
  • After killing Nere, tell Brithvar either that you think slaves are a valuable asset, OR tell him you won't interfere. Astarion approves +1
  • If you get to decide the gnomes' fate after Nere and Thrinn died, tell the duergar approaching you, that they will make a fine offering. Astarion approves +1

Crèche Y'llek

In the infirmary:

In the hatchery:

  • Tell Varsh Ko'kuu that the last githyanki egg is clearly a dud Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Varsh Ko'kuu that if he gives you the githyanki egg you'll sell it at best price OR make yourself an omelette (either choise brings Astarion approves +1 and immediately starts the fight with Ko'kuu and hatchery guards)

In the training room:

At the captain's quarters and Inquisitor's chamber:

  • Tell Kith'rak Therezzyn that you have the Mysterious Artefact, then refuse to surrender it. Astarion approves +1 (provokes a fight with Therezzyn)
  • Ask the Inquisitor W'wargaz how he knows so much about you. Astarion approves +1
  • Ask the Inquisitor W'wargaz what you'll get in return for surrendering the weapon Astarion approves +1, and then:
    • Tell him you'll accept gold as a reward. Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as a Warlock, ask for treasure of immense power Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as a Rogue, ask for anything of immense value Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as a Wizard, demand permission to read the valuable spellbooks Astarion approves +1
  • Refuse to hand over the artefact to the Inquisitor W'wargaz, and convince Lae'zel to trust you by succeeding DC 21 Persuasion check or by reminding her of the zaith'isk (if you've learned the truth about it prior). Astarion approves +1

Camp/Conversation

  • Tell him you'll sleep better for it when he says he'll keep watch Astarion approves +3
  • In camp on the first night, tell Shadowheart to remain cautious Astarion approves +1
  • When he asks how you'd like him to kill you, choose any way he proposes (decapitation, stabbing, or poison) Astarion approves +5
    • OR Tell him you'll spill his guts if he tries Astarion disapproves -1, then say you'll take him down with you Astarion approves +5
  • Agree with Astarion that using illithid powers to manipulate others could be useful. Astarion approves +1

Note: This dialogue is available only after using 'illithid' dialogue line for the first time in your walkthrough.

  • After Astarion prompts you to call him beautiful, choose any option (including the line about 'shallow praise' ) Astarion approves +1
  • Feed the Owlbear Cub when it first comes to the camp Astarion approves +1
  • Pet the Owlbear Cub in your camp after it had a nightmare Astarion approves +1
  • When Kith'rak Voss wakes you up at the camp during long rest to discuss the Mysterious Artefact (after the events at the Crèche), tell Lae'zel to kill him Astarion approves +1 (starts the fight with the githyanki knight)
  • Threaten to kill Mizora during her first appearance in the camp Astarion approves +1
  • Agree to sleep with him. Astarion approves +5 (starts romance)
    • Offer him your neck during sexual intercourse Astarion approves +10

Note: The dialogue about spending a night together might occur anywhere if Astarion's approval has come up to 40+, otherwise it can be triggered at the camp celebration

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Raphael's deal

  • When Raphael briefly takes you to the House of Hope, tell the devil:
    • "You're mad if you think I'll make a deal with a devil." Astarion approves +1
    • OR "Then fix it. Or die by my hand!" Astarion approves +5
  • Tell Astarion that you are not Raphael's plaything, discussing the cambion's offer Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as a Warlock, when Astarion says you understand how dangerous the wrong deal can be, reply that you can't fall into Raphael's trap. Astarion approves +1

Personal quest

  • At the Long Rest, when Astarion's true nature comes out, say you trust him. Astarion approves +5
    • Then let him bite you without threatening him. Astarion approves +10
    • OR Let him bite you but threaten to stake him if he goes too far. Astarion approves +1
  • The next morning, when other companions find out that Astarion is a vampire:
    • Say you think he won't hurt anyone of you Astarion approves +5
    • OR Say that if they don't like it, they can leave. Astarion approves +5
  • When discussing Astarion's future 'diet', agree that him feeding on your enemies sounds good. Astarion approves +5
  • When he asks whose blood you'd hypothetically drink, name any other companion (including himself, too). Astarion approves +1
  • While speaking about Cazador, tell him that you'll watch his back OR promise you'll keep him safe if he does the same. Astarion approves +5 (either)

Act Two

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Ruined Battlefield

If entering the Shadow-Cursed Lands from the Grymforge:

  • When Lassandra asks who's there, say you're a nightmare in the dark. Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Barbarian, answer Lassandra you're the one who will snap both her and her weapons in two. Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Sorcerer, tell Lassandra to kindly lower weapons or things might get ugly. Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Wild Magic Sorcerer, tell Lassandra to kindly lower your weapons, or who knows what your magic might do. Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Dark Urge, tell Lassandra you're an escaped lunatic. Astarion approves +1
  • Playing as a Vengeance Paladin, tell Lassandra you'll only take them down if they strike first Astarion approves +1
  • When the shadows warp Yonas, run away from the ambush Astarion approves +1

If entering the Shadow-Cursed Lands from the Rosymorn Monastery Trail:

  • Convince the hyena in the convoy that it doesn't belong to goblins and should leave them. Astarion approves +1
  • Order Warrior Gronag to fetch the bone, after he makes the same with the hyena. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Kar'niss the drider they are amazing after watching them berate a goblin who "fed the shadows"
  • Convince the drider not to attack you if you killed the convoy before summoning him. Astarion approves +1
  • Traversing Shadow-Cursed Lands with the convoy, protect them and maintain your cover as a True Soul Astarion approves +1
    • After defeating Harpers, convince the drider through Deception to give you the lantern Astarion approves +1
    • Then use Deception again, and convince the drider to walk away into the shadows Astarion approves +1
  • Traversing Shadow-Cursed Lands with the convoy, side with the ambushing Harpers. After defeating the convoy, tell the Harpers' leader you're going to kill them and take the lantern.Astarion approves +1 (Taking this course starts the fight with ambushing Harpers immediately).
  • When talking to Dolly Thrice, ignore the pixie two times and keep the lantern. Astarion approves +1
  • When judging with He Who Was, order Madeline to stab herself, then to continue Astarion approves +1, and finally succeed a Persuasion roll to keep her going Astarion approves +1.


Last Light Inn

  • Speaking to Jaheira for the first time, tell her that you are here on holiday. Astarion approves +1
  • Refuse to drink the spiked wine when talking to Jaheira inside. Astarion approves +3
  • Help Mol win the game against Raphael using the Sleight of Hand, Bard, Monk, or Wizard options Astarion approves +1
    • After Raphael disappears, tell Astarion that carving scars in his back must have been excruciating Astarion approves +1

Note: The cutscene continues towards this course only if you're not playing as The Dark Urge AND if you haven't seen his scars prior

  • Talking to the Strange Ox, promise to keep its secret Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as The Dark Urge, give in to your urge to kill the Strange Ox. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Isobel to 'follow the winged freak' (i.e. Marcus). Astarion approves +1
    • Playing as The Dark Urge, tell Isobel that your blood orders you to kill her, then deny the urge, and apologise Astarion approves +1
  • After Mol is taken during the assault, tell Mattis she's probably dead already. Astarion approves +1
  • Call Wulbren a prick when Barcus Wroot talks to him after you rescue him. Astarion approves +1
  • While talking to His Majesty via Speak with Animals:
    • Tell His Majesty that you want to admire him up close Astarion approves +1, and then choose to 'quietly admire him' Astarion approves +1
    • OR Hiss back at His Majesty, tell him he's in your territory, and order to get out Astarion approves +1
    • OR Playing as a Ranger, ensure him you don't seek his territory, only his time Astarion approves +1
    • OR Playing as a Barbarian, bark at His Majesty Astarion approves +1


Reithwin Town
In the Reithwin Tollhouse:

In the House of Healing:

  • Convince Malus Thorm to order his sisters to hone their blades on each other.Astarion approves +1
  • OR Convince Malus Thorm to take the place of his patient and submit to sisters' curing. Astarion approves +2 (comes one point by another subsequently).

At The Waning Moon:

  • Safely drink with Thisobald Thorm (rolling Saving Throw, either general or class-based) up to three times total Astarion approves +1(each time)
    • OR successfully imitate drinking (rolling Sleight of Hand) Astarion approves +1 (gains approval only in first round)
  • Successfully entertain the brewer with your stories (through Performance roll) Astarion approves +1 .(each time)

Note: If Performance roll failed, successful subsequent Deception roll earns a point of approval, nonetheless.

  • By any means make the Thisobald Thorm drink his 'elixir' three times in a row, thus leading him to burst Astarion approves +1


House in Deep Shadows

  • Beat Oliver at hide-and-seek without being spotted. Astarion approves +1
  • Ask Oliver whether he doesn't have anyone else to play with, and then about his parents' names are. Then, after a successful passive DC 14 Wisdom check, offer him to come to your camp and agree to play with him after he declines. Once Oliver explains the rules, tell him that you've changed your mind. Astarion approves +1 (immediately starts the fight with Oliver's 'family' )


Moonrise Towers

  • Sever the connection between Linsella and Barnabus Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Araj Oblodra that Astarion is his own person Astarion approves +5
    • Then support Astarion's decision on biting Araj, telling her 'He said no, what's to discuss.'Astarion approves +5
    • OR Tell Astarion that he shall not do anything he doesn't want to, when Araj asks you to pressure him into taking her offer Astarion approves +5
  • Kill Fezzerk without combat (through dialogue options) Astarion approves +1
  • Successfully distract Disciple Z'rell with "your lusts for Astarion" when she searches your mind for proof of your faith Astarion approves +1

Note: This option is available only if you're romancing the spawn

Note: This option requires DC 21 Intimidation check and any of subsequent DC 30 checks first OR a DC 10 Persuasion check if you have found and read Melodia's Letter to Ketheric

  • When talking to Minthara after killing Ketheric Thorm:
    • Tell her that together you make a good team. Astarion approves +1
    • Tell her you can hardly wait to reshape the world Astarion approves +1
    • Propose to take Orin's place to lead the cult of Absolute Astarion approves +5 (amount [Needs Verification])
    • Tell her "I'm with you" when she proposes claiming the Netherstones.
    • Tell her you wanted to learn more about the tadpole when she asks "one more thing"
  • When talking to Jaheira after killing Ketheric Thorm, say that she seems to enjoy herself, then tell you're having the time of your life, too Astarion approves +1

Gauntlet of Shar

  • After interacting with the Pedestal of Reckoning, agree to help Shadowheart with the trials. Astarion approves +1
  • Persuade Balthazar to give you the bell to summon Flesh Astarion approves +1
  • Having Mother Dearest in your inventory, ask Balthazar what happened to his mother. Then, tell him you took the urn, and finally say that you'll keep her. Astarion approves +1

When dealing with Yurgir:

  • Attack Yurgir straightaway. Astarion approves +5

Note: The Insight check is not needed when playing as a Bard or a Warlock

  • If you agreed to help Yurgir, reassure Astarion that this is all part of the plan. Astarion approves +1
  • Detect thoughts on the Hoarding Merregon and ask for the potions used to charm Nessa. Astarion approves +1

Mind Flayer Colony

Note: This option is available only after successful DC 18 Insight check

Camp/Conversation

  • Tell Arabella her parents are dead. Astarion approves +1
  • After defending Astarion from Araj Oblodra's molestations, at the long rest tell him that you care about him, then either hug him OR open your mind to show your true feelings Astarion approves +3

Note: This long-rest cutscene appears only if you romance him; both these choices advance your relationship

  • OR Tell him he needs a friend more than another lover Astarion approves +3

Note: This choice ends the romance without approval loss

Personal quest

  • Tell him it makes sense to ask Raphael for help with investigating his scars. Astarion approves +5
  • After Raphael reveals the true purpose of the spawn's scars, tell Astarion you'll help hunt down and kill Cazador. Astarion approves +5

Act Three

Ico knownSpells lvl 03.png Act 3 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Rivington
Talking to Yenna:

  • Tell Yenna to get lost. Astarion approves +1
  • Offer to go find a guard for Yenna Astarion approves +1
  • Give Yenna food or gold. Astarion approves +1 (adds another point after offering to find a guard, too)
  • Tell Yenna that her mother is probably dead. Astarion approves +1

At the Gur Camp:

  • Agree when Astarion tells Ulma that her children are already dead Astarion approves +1

At the Sword Coast Couriers:

In the kennels:

In the Angleiron's Cellar:

  • Take the bomb from Wulbren OR tell him that this is too messy. Astarion approves +1 (either)
    • If contacting the Gondians, accept the bomb anyway. Astarion approves +1

Dealing with Orin's guises:

  • If Orin is impersonating Gyldro Angleiron, say you would kill someone close to you without hesitation.Astarion approves +1

Note: When playing as Lae'zel origin, this option will have an unique formulation, but still take its place (line 4)

At the Open Hand Temple:

Circus of the Last Days
Watching Dribbles's show:

  • Yell 'Boo! Get off the stage!' OR say 'What a corny joke' Astarion approves +1 (either)
    • OR Playing as a Bard, interrupt him with your own pun Astarion approves +1
  • * Volunteer any companion to the stage, except Astarion himself Astarion approves +1, and then cheer them, telling "Go on!" Astarion approves +1

Note: If volunteering Jaheira, the line will have unique formulation

  • If going on stage yourself, say you're special because you treat the people around you with kindness. Astarion approves +1

When passing Zethino's trial, choose answers:

  • First question: ★'When he's elbow deep in gore' Astarion approves +1
  • Second question: ★'Revenge' Astarion approves +1 OR ★'Me' Astarion approves +2 (the latter is available if you're romancing him)
  • Third question: ★'Breaking a nail' Astarion approves +2 OR 'Most things' Astarion approves +1

Note: The ★ sign here marks the answers considered 'correct' for the purposes of the test.

Elsewhere:

  • Tell Saer Grotpoll that his own accent sounds more Rivingtonian than Baldurian Astarion approves +1
  • Tell the Strange Ox that it takes worse than a bit of gore to turn your gullet. Astarion approves +1
    • OR Tell the Strange Ox you will keep its secret. Astarion approves +1

Note: These options are available if you haven't resolved interactions with the Ox in the Act Two

  • Tell Manip Nestor you'll take a donation. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Farlin that you're happy to help them against Cairos and his thugs. Astarion approves +1

Wyrm's Crossing

Wyrm's Rock Fortress

  • Convince the Flaming Fist quartermaster Arkleia Oloril to trade with you. Astarion approves +1
  • When confronting Fist Reynash in the Flaming Fist barracks:
    • Tell Fist Reynash to get a grip
    • If you wake the guards, tell Manip Bakshi:
      • That another Fist was trying to steal from him. Astarion approves +1
      • Whether it isn't his job to catch criminals Astarion approves +2
  • Pass the Steel Watcher that confronts you at the coronation. Astarion approves +1
  • Agree to watch Gortash's coronation. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Ravengard that Gortash is a tyrant after probing his mind to discover Florrick's location. Astarion approves +1
  • Say that you should not trust the Steel Watchers because they will turn on everyone while talking to Lord Amber's Bodyguard, Lady Durinbold's Attendant and Lord Shattershield's Attendant. Astarion approves +1
  • Escort Counsellor Florrick out of the prison

Sharess' Caress

  • When he expresses discomfort with the drow twins' offer of an orgy, tell him you would never ask such a thing. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Sauceman Chorizo that you can pleasure him better. Astarion approves +1

Lower City
At the Highberry's Home:

  • Tell Molly the Orphan that her dad is dead. Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Timmy the Orphan "There are bigger problems in this city right now." Astarion approves +1

At the Sorcerous Sundries:

  • When speaking to Yafeu after a different companion got trapped in his lamp, ask for gold. Astarion approves +1
  • Betray Aylin and hand her over to Lorroakan. Astarion approves +1

At The Blushing Mermaid:

  • When speaking to Auntie Ethel, say “That’s so evil, even I’m impressed.”. Astarion approves +2
    • OR tell her to return the child immediately. Astarion approves +1
  • After using Hag's Bane on Auntie Ethel, say “That’s it – cough her up, hag.”Astarion approves +1

At the House of Grief:

  • When first speaking to Arves, convince him that he owes money to the bank. Astarion approves +1
  • When given the choice over Viconia DeVir's fate, choose to kill her Astarion approves +?

Elsewhere:

At the Devil's Fee:

  • When asking Helsik for answers, persuade her for a free sample. Astarion approves +1
  • When asking Helsik for free passage to the House of Hope, persuade her promising one of Raphael's artefacts in exchange. Astarion approves +1
  • Upon returning from House of Hope, intimidate Helsik saying that you've just killed a devil in his own home. Astarion approves +1

House of Hope

  • When outside of Raphael's Archive, tell Hope that she's "as helpful as a blunt dagger." Astarion approves +1
  • Tell Haarlep you are there to kill them Astarion approves +1
    • OR attack Haarlep straightaway Astarion approves +1
  • Refuse to undress for Haarlep Astarion approves +1
  • Refuse to pledge your body to Haarlep Astarion approves +1
  • During fight with Raphael, knock Korrilla out with a non-lethal attack. Afterwards, speak to Hope and say that her sister didn’t deserve to die. Astarion approves +1

Camp/Conversations
After the spawn assault:

  • Tell Astarion that you are sorry for what happened to him Astarion approves +1
    • OR tell him to move forward and get revenge after the assault. Astarion approves +1
  • Say that the world can be a wonderful place if he cares for those who care for him. Astarion approves +1
  • Ask whether you're special Astarion approves +1
  • Agree that it doesn't matter whether the other spawn have to die in the Rite. Astarion approves +1

If Astarion has completed the Rite of Profane Ascension

  • Agree to become his spawn AND to bed with him 'one last time, for the road'. Astarion approves +3

Note: Without sexual intercourse, no approval is gained

Personal quest

  • During and after the party is attacked by other Cazador's spawn at night:
    • Deceive Leon and Aurelia, telling that they should side with Astarion. Astarion approves +1 (if you know about the Rite)
    • Persuade or intimidate them to stand against Cazador Astarion approves +1 (if you haven't learned about the Rite yet).
  • In Cazador's Dungeon, when Sebastian asks what happens to them, say you'll set them free, OR ask if he would be able to control his hunger. Astarion approves +1 (either)
  • Successfully keep Astarion from performing the Rite of Profane Ascension Astarion approves +3

Disapproval

The following story and dialogue choices will cause Astarion to lose approval.

Act One

Ico knownSpells lvl 01.png Act 1 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Emerald Grove/The Hollow

  • Promise Zevlor you will talk to Kagha about stopping the ritual Astarion disapproves -1
  • After Lae'zel interrogates Zorru:
    • Playing as a Halfling, tell the gith not to be so rough with everyone Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR Playing as a Good Cleric, interrupt Lae'zel and call her cruel and cold after she threatens you.Astarion disapproves -1
  • If you are confronted about stealing the Idol of Silvanus return the idol and apologise Astarion disapproves -1
  • Tell Locke and Komira (Arabella's parents) that the druids are overreacting and that you will talk to them Astarion disapproves -1
  • Swear to Nettie to take the Wyvern Poison Astarion disapproves -1
  • Persuade Kagha to fight against the Shadow Druids (if uncovered her conspiring with them) Astarion disapproves -1
  • Agree with Zevlor to kill the goblin horde's leaders without asking for payment Astarion disapproves -1
  • While talking to/trading with Mattis, catch Silfy trying to pickpocket you (passive Perception check), and tell her to relax (either straightaway or after successful Insight check). Astarion disapproves -1

Owlbear Nest

  • Agree with Shadowheart when she asks not to loot the Selunite chest Astarion disapproves -1

Sunlit Wetlands/Putrid Bog

  • When talking to Auntie Ethel and Mayrina at the Riverside Teahouse:
    • Don't let Ethel steer the conversation away, and finally say that "This woman is clearly in trouble" Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR Tell Mayrina straightaway that Demir and Johl were killed (by you or Ethel) Astarion disapproves -1
  • After defeating Ethel, reject the offer to spare her in exchange for fey hair Astarion disapproves -5
  • OR, Order her to let Mayrina go. Astarion disapproves -5
  • Reject Mayrina's reward for saving her Astarion disapproves -1

Dealing with Gandrel:

  • Reveal his identity to Gandrel Astarion disapproves -10
    • OR, Don't turn Astarion in, but later in the dialogue don't allow him to kill Gandrel Astarion disapproves -5
  • After Astarion kills Gandrel himself, say that the hunter need not to die Astarion disapproves -1

Note: This option is available only if you don't know that Astarion is a vampire

Blighted Village

Goblin Camp
At the front gate and in the outer camp:

  • Follow Sentinel Olak's instruction and smear worg dung on your face. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Tell Eight that you are sorry for the loss of his parents. Astarion disapproves -1

Inside the Shattered Sanctum:

In the Worg Pens:

  • * After freeing Halsin, agree to kill goblin leaders for him. Astarion disapproves -1

The Risen Road

  • When talking with Rugan, agree to fight the gnolls outside the cave. Astarion disapproves -1

Zhentarim Hideout

Underdark

Grymforge

  • Tell Ward Magmar that he disgusts you Astarion disapproves -1
  • When attempting to take the elevator, tell Magmar that you need to save Nere to obtain a Moonlantern Astarion disapproves -1
  • Convince Skickpit you're going to help him, then ask if he really wants you to kill his slavers (using Persuasion line) Astarion disapproves -1
  • Pay your respect to the corpes of dead deep gnomes after killing or deceiving Brathwen and Viss. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Agree to help Lunkbug find Philomeen. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Stand up for the deep gnome slaves when Nere, once freed, is going to kill them Astarion disapproves -1
  • Convince Elder Brithvar to free the deep gnomes after the fight with Nere Astarion disapproves -1

Crèche Y'llek
At the hatchery:

  • Persuade Varsh Ko'kuu to let you take the githyanki egg, telling him:
    • that you'll take it to a better crèche Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR that you'll raise it yourself Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR, Playing as a Githyanki, say you'll see it becomes the greatest ghaik-slayer Astarion disapproves -1

In the training room:

  • After saving Youth Varrl by whatever means, tell him:
    • That capacity for mercy is what separates us from feral beasts Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR That his teacher obviously failed to instill discipline. Astarion disapproves -1

In the captain's quarters and Inquisitor's chamber:

Camp/Conversation

  • At the very first long rest, when Astarion says he'll keep watch, answer that you're not ready to turn your back on a stranger Astarion disapproves -1
  • When he asks how you'd like to be killed, say you don't have to choose, OR that you would prefer someone else to do it Astarion disapproves -1 (either option)
    • OR Tell him you'll spill his guts first Astarion disapproves -1
  • Give the Necromancy of Thay to Gale, or destroy it. Astarion disapproves -5
  • After Astarion fails to read through Necromancy of Thay, suggest that he give the book to Gale or tell him to stop reading it Astarion disapproves -1
  • Refuse when he offers to sleep with him. Astarion disapproves -1

Note: If you agreed, turning him down during any part of the romance cutscene itself does not bring any disapproval

  • When he tries to feel through his scars with fingers, offer your help, then mock him about 'cleric of Gond' Astarion disapproves -1
  • Allow Volo to follow through with his attempt to remove the parasite
  • If Astarion died from the Lathander's Lance blast in Rosymorn Monastery, resurrect him, then talk to him and choose any line except the promise to be more careful next time Astarion disapproves -5

During camp celebration:

  • When arranging to spend a night together, fail the DC 15 Persuasion check to make Astarion say 'please' . Astarion disapproves -1

Note: This whole dialogue occurs only if you haven't slept with him earlier

  • If you already have a partner, tell Astarion that you're "looking forward to it" OR ask the spawn if he's feeling jealous. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Speak to him, end the conversation without agreeing to sleep with him, then make arrangements with another companion. After that, talk to Astarion again and tell him you're spending the night with someone else. Astarion disapproves -1

Raphael's Deal

  • When Raphael briefly takes you to the House of Hope, say that you'll do anything to get rid of the tadpole Astarion disapproves -5
  • After first encounter with Raphael, tell Astarion that he might not be able to outfox the devil, but you will. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Playing as a Warlock, say that Raphael is "only a cambion" and that you can handle him. Astarion disapproves -1

Personal quest

  • At the Long Rest, when Astarion's true nature comes out:
    • Botch the roll to read his mind through illithid ability Astarion disapproves -5
    • Tell him to leave immediately Astarion disapproves -10 (Astarion obeys and leaves the party)
    • Fail to stake him (at any stage of the scene) Astarion disapproves -10 (Astarion leaves the party)
  • When discussing Astarion's future 'diet', forbid him to drink human blood Astarion disapproves -5
  • While speaking about Cazador, tell him that he is on his own Astarion disapproves -5
  • When he asks whose blood you'd hypothetically drink, ask him back if he really means eating others, then choose the line 'We're done talking'. Astarion disapproves -1

Act Two

Ico knownSpells lvl 02.png Act 2 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Ruined Battlefield
If entering the Shadow-Cursed Lands from the Rosymorn Monastery Trail:

  • Fail to convince the hyena in the convoy that they do not belong to the goblins. Astarion disapproves -1

If entering the Shadow-Cursed Lands from the Grymforge:

  • Playing as a Bard, tell Harper Lassandra that the best introductions are made while sitting around a fire. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Playing as a Druid, ask Lassandra about this land and its festering shadows Astarion disapproves -1
  • Playing as a Wizard, tell Lassandra that you can aid in traversing the darkness. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Free Dolly Thrice from the Moonlantern carried by Kar'niss. Astarion disapproves -1
  • When judging with He Who Was, tell Madeline that it wasn't her fault Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR Order her to stab herself, then tell her she did enough Astarion disapproves -1.

Last Light Inn

Reithwin Tollhouse

House in Deep Shadows

  • Lose when playing hide-and-seek with Oliver. Astarion disapproves -1

Moonrise Towers

  • Offer Fezzerk a fair fight
  • Order the guards to release Fezzerk Astarion disapproves -1
  • Tell Araj Oblodra that Astarion does what you tell him to Astarion disapproves -3
  • Convince Astarion to drink Araj Oblodra's blood or order him to do it. Astarion disapproves -3

Gauntlet of Shar

  • When Yurgir says that Raphael deceived and trapped him, continue talking to him instead of attacking Astarion disapproves -1
  • Persuade Yurgir to let you help him find something to get him out of his contract Astarion disapproves -3
  • Agree to peace with the rats after interacting with the broken effigy Astarion disapproves -1

Mind Flayer Colony

  • At the Tadpoling Centre, use the Neural Apparatus to release the inhabitants of the pods. Astarion disapproves -1

Camp/Conversations

  • After defending Astarion from Araj Oblodra's molestations, at the long rest (the cutscene appears only if you romance him):
    • Tell him twice that you're not interested in his confessions Astarion disapproves -5 (this choice breaks your relationship)
    • Tell him you regret stopping him from drinking Araj's blood Astarion disapproves -15
    • Tell him you slept with him only because you wanted some fun Astarion disapproves -15
    • Convince him to sleep with you tonight (using any line), then, when the cutscene continues, prompt him to say what he wants to say OR ask whether it was bad for him Astarion disapproves -15 (either choice brings equal disapproval and breaks your relationship)

Personal quest

  • When he tries to feel through his scars with fingers, offer your help, then mock him about 'cleric of Gond' Astarion disapproves -1

Note: This cutscene will show up only if it hasn't occured in Act One

  • When he says he's going to ask Raphael's help with investigating his scars, tell him he's mad Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR Ask not to rope you in dealing with the devil Astarion disapproves -1
  • After Raphael reveals the true purpose of spawn's scars, refuse to help Astarion stop Cazador Astarion disapproves -3

Act Three

Ico knownSpells lvl 03.png Act 3 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Rivington

Open Hand Temple

  • Agree with the Brother Clements that Father Lorgan was right to accept everyone at the temple. Astarion disapproves -1
  • On the temple roof, tell Tara to stop eating the carrier pigeons. Astarion disapproves -1

Circus of the Last Days

  • Volunteer Astarion to the stage as a special assistant to Dribbles Astarion disapproves -1, and then cheer him, telling "Go on!" Astarion disapproves -1.
  • When passing Zethino's trial, choose answers: (amounts [Needs Verification])
    • First question: 'He hasn't ever been happy' OR 'Right now' Astarion disapproves -1 (either)
    • Second question: ★'Freedom' OR 'Tasty rat' Astarion disapproves -1 (either)
    • Third question: 'Wooden sticks' OR ★'Feeling a slave' Astarion disapproves -1 (either)

Note: The ★ sign here marks the answers considered 'correct' for the purposes of the test, even if they bring disapproval.

Dealing with Orin's guises:

  • If Orin is impersonating Fist Rowan, tell her that one can't just kill innocent people Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR Tell her that you're going to report to the commanding officer Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR Tell her that both sides need a lesson Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR, Playing as The Dark Urge, tell her that mindless slaughter is not the answer Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR, Playing as The Dark Urge, propose to kill and kill again Astarion disapproves -1

Elsewhere:

  • Donate gold to Manip Nestor. Astarion disapproves -1
  • After successfully deceiving Saer Grotpoll that you're a Baldurian (if you actually are not), stand for his rumblings about refugees Astarion disapproves -1
  • Tell Mattis to watch himself when he remarks how big Baldur's Gate is. Astarion disapproves -1 (available if tiefling kids survived Acts One and Two)
  • Ask newspaper seller Lilly Beanbottom if she knows that a murder's not a good thing Astarion disapproves -1
  • Promise Ulma at the Gur Camp to save their children after Astarion said that they're already dead. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Tell Wulbren that Gortash is the real enemy, not the Gondians. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Playing as the Dark Urge, resist the yearn to tear the Strange Ox apart. Astarion disapproves -1
  • Refuse to be arrested by the Steel Watcher at the gate to the Wyrm's Crossing. Astarion disapproves -1

Wyrms's Rock Fortress

Lower City

  • At the Elfsong Tavern, agree to follow the trial of the murders for Devella Fountainhead. Astarion disapproves -1
    • Agree to Devella's request to warn the other potential murder victims. Astarion disapproves -1

Note: If Devella has already left the Elfsong, this dialogue (with all approval points) may trigger at the Facemaker's Boutique

House of Hope

Bhaal Temple

  • Tell Orin that Baldur's Gate deserves the fate she is planning. Astarion disapproves -1

Camp/Conversations
The night assaut of other Cazador's spawn:

  • When Leon and Aurelia appear at the camp at night, tell them that they can take Astarion to Cazador. Astarion disapproves -1
    • After the fight, fail to persuade Astarion that you were only teasing him.Astarion disapproves -3 (If you're romancing Astarion, he will break the relationship)
  • After the fight, berate Astarion for deceiving the other spawn about their part in the Rite of Profane Ascension. Astarion disapproves -3
    • Then tell Astarion not to act haughty Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR ask him what does his own life matter Astarion disapproves -1
  • Tell him that Cazador truly broke him Astarion disapproves -1
    • OR that he shouldn't have given up. Astarion disapproves -1

After Astarion has completed the Rite of Profane Ascension (within cutscene that appears only when romancing him):

  • Tell him he had to learn how not to become Cazador himself Astarion disapproves -15
    • OR, when he asks what do you desire, say you wanted him to be free, but he never will Astarion disapproves -15
  • Agree to become his spawn (using as much talk as you want), then refuse to kneel before him (with or without Wisdom check). Astarion disapproves -15

Note: choosing any of these options will lead to Astarion break the relationship.

Personal quest

  • Fail to keep Astarion from performing the Rite of Profane Ascension OR refuse to help him. Astarion disapproves -1 (Astarion leaves the party)
    • OR Interrupt the Rite once Astarion has started it (Astarion becomes hostile to the party)