Astarion/Approval

Interactions
Companion	Approval	Banter	Romance
Astarion	Approval	Banter	Romance
Gale	Approval	Banter	Romance
Karlach	Approval	Banter	Romance
Lae'zel	Approval	Banter	Romance
Shadowheart	Approval	Banter	Romance
Wyll	Approval	Banter	Romance
Halsin	Approval	Banter	Romance
Minthara	Approval	Banter	Romance
Jaheira	Approval	Banter	n/a
Minsc	Approval	Banter	n/a

Astarion likes displays of power and cruelty, and appreciates snarkiness and mocking. He is inspired when the player gains access to areas/information by deceiving others. The player does not have to be "evil" to gain his approval, however — he approves when the player makes choices that support independence and autonomy, and when the player helps certain characters in need.

Astarion dislikes displays of weakness and does not like acts of kindness or charity that offer no reward. He disapproves when the player tries to reign him in or restrict him in some way.

The actions and choices listed on this page will raise or lower Astarion's Approval.

For more information about the approval system, see Approval.

Approval

The following story and dialogue choices will cause Astarion to gain approval.

Act One

Act 1 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Ravaged Beach

Attack the Tieflings holding Lae'zel in a cage. ( +1)
Ask Lae'zel to say 'please' after rescuing her ( +1)
Choose the 'Attack' dialogue option when speaking to Taman and Gimblebock

Druid Grove

Refuse to help Zevlor persuade Kagha to let the Tieflings stay. ( +1)
Tell Elegis that she is pathetic of being scared of a few goblins. ( +1)
While speaking with Arron, say the refugees will be fine due to their devilish powers. ( +1)
Tell the Tielfling kids trained by Asharak that they are going to die ( +1)
Make Zorru bow to Lae'zel ( +1)
After the conversation with Zorru tell Lae'zel that she is good at interrogations ( +1)
Let Arka shoot Sazza ( +1)
In the Underground Passage, after reviving Findal tell him you are here to finish the job and kill him. ( +1)
When confronting Kagha about the shadow druids, choose to attack her instead of persuading her
Telling Auntie Ethel about the tadpole in your head. ( +1)
When speaking to Mattis, take the ring, pocket the ring and tell him you paid him in experience.
After saving Mirkon, tell him to "stop snivelling or they'll be back."
Attack the Tieflings
The Dark Urge: When interacting with the squirrel Timber, warn Astarion about getting in front of your instincts. ( +1)

Sunlit Wetlands

When entering the Sunlit Wetlands, pass the check to break the illusion, then BAA at the redcaps when you speak to them.
Let him kill Gandrel ( +10)
Tell Auntie Ethel about the tadpole
Speak to Lorin and roar at him
When Auntie Ethel's true form surrender, pass Intimidation or Deception Check to save Mayrina and obtain the power.
After killing Auntie Ethel's true form, use the wand to resurrect Mayrina's dead husband Connor, give her the wand, then tell Astarion that it was funny

Blighted Village

Enter the Village by either attacking the goblin an the East gate, or by persuading or performing as a Bard at the South gate. ( +1)
Deliver the final blow to the goblin Fezzerk
Give him Necromancy of Thay.
Request to be compensated by Barcus Wroot after saving him. ( +1)
Interrupt the bugbear and ogre lovers in the barn. ( +1)

The Risen Road

Side with Karlach during Wyll's confrontation with her
Tell the merchant Cyrel that you'll take the supplies.
Pass the check to order Flind, the Gnoll warlord to attack the survivors in the cave instead of you. ( +1)
Pass the check to order Flind to feast on other Gnoll. ( +1)
Pass the check to order Flind to kill herself. ( +1)
Obey and eliminate Rugan when asked by Zarys
Speak to the artist and call him a slave

Goblin Camp

Deceive the goblins, say 'you can't be serious', then fling poo at them.
Say 'Boo' to Volo as he performs. ( +1)
Tell Tracker Grikka (or another goblin NPC) that you will "get answers for them" when discussing their prisoners. ( +1)
Tell Torturer Spike in the goblin camp that you will torture the prisoner.
Tell Priestess Gut in the goblin camp that you're here to kill her.
Remove the ring from Crusher's foot after you kneel in front of him.
Make Crusher kiss your foot. ( +1)
Make Crusher kiss your foot after defeating him in a fight.. ( +1)
Continue to attack Crusher after he is defeated, if he attacks you. This will make the whole camp hostile. ( +1)
Agree to endure Abdirak's teachings on Loviatar's love. ( +5)
Turn down the druid Halsin's request to help the grove in favor of saving yourself first.

Crèche Y'llek

Vandalise the portrait of Vlaakith ( +1)
When convincing Varsh Ko'kuu to give you the Githyanki egg, tell him you will use it for an omelet or sell it ( +1)
Ask the Inquisitor how he knows so much about you. ( +1)
Ask the Inquisitor what you'll get in return for producing the weapon. ( +1)
Tell the Inquisitor you accept gold as a reward

Underdark

Tell BOOOAL he is a fake god, tell him you are going to kill him and take his power
Tell Spaw "Sure, I can handle those Duergar nearby"
Tell Glut you will kill Spaw for him
Tell Glut "I'll have no part of this" or "If you're so eager for blood..." option when asked to eliminate Spaw
Ask Baelen for compensation before giving him a Misty Step scroll for escaping the Bibberbang field.
Succeed the Athletics check and push Corsair Greymoon off of the skiff on your first voyage to Grymforge

Grymforge

Decide to attack Morghal and Orgath after finding out they use slaves.
Ask Ward Magmar how to get a slave of your own
When talking to Ward Magmar about traveling to Moonrise Towers, choose "Moonrise Tower holds the answers we need"
After finding Philomeen, talk to Lunkbug and mention she wants Laridda to move on
Instigate a fight against Elder Brithvar by either taunting him to take your gold or suggesting involving Sergeant Thrinn in the conspiracy against Nere.
After rescuing Nere, tell him to finish the slaves, or choose to say nothing

Camp/Conversation

Ask Astarion how he wants to die, then choose an option.
In camp on the first night, tell Shadowheart to remain cautious.
Feed the Owlbear Cub when it arrives at the Camp
Pet the Owlbear Cub in your camp.
After he asks you to describe his beauty, choose "Is that all you want? Shallow praise?" ( +1)
Threaten to kill Mizora during her first appearance. ( +1)

As the Dark Urge: Confess to murdering the bard ( +1)

Raphael's deal

Meeting Raphael

"You're mad if you think I'll make a deal with a devil." ( +1)
"Then fix it. Or die by my hand!" ( +5)

Tell him that you are not the devil's plaything in regards to Raphael's offer ( +1)

Vampirism

Tell him you trust him after he reveals to you that he is a vampire. ( +5)
When asked to be bitten by him:

Let him bite you without threats. ( +10)
Let him bite you but threaten to stake him if he goes too far. ( +1)

Tell the party that Astarion will remain in the party because you trust him when it is revealed to them he is a vampire, or tell the party that if they don't like [having a vampire in the party], that they can leave. ( +5)
While asking about biting you, agree about him biting your enemies to feed him sounding good. ( +5)
When he asks whose blood you'd hypothetically drink, choose any option. ( +1)
While speaking about Cazador, tell him that you watch his back or keep each other safe. ( +5)

Act Two

Act 2 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Last Light Inn

Tell Jaheira that you are here on holiday
Help Mol win the game against Raphael using the Sleight of Hand, Bard, or Wizard options
Tell His Majesty that you wanted to admire him up close, and then quietly admire him
Decline Jaheira's wine
Tell Isobel you should "go with the winged freak" after Flaming Fist Marcus arrives
As The Dark Urge, after Marcus attempts to kidnap her, tell Isobel that your blood is telling you to kill her. Resist the urges, and then say, "I'm not going to follow my order. You will live."

Shadowed Battlefield

Tell the drider that they are amazing, after watching them berate a goblin who "fed the shadows."
Convince the drider through deception to give you the lantern
Convince the drider through deception to walk into the shadows
If travelling with the convoy when it is ambushed, choose to protect the convoy and maintain your cover as a True Soul.
Tell Arabella her parents are dead.
Persuade Madeline to stab herself.
Tell Madeline to prove she's sorry.

House in Deep Shadows

Beat Oliver at hide-and-seek without being spotted

Reithwin Tollhouse

Persuade Gerringothe Thorm that there's no one to oversee her.
Deceive Gerringothe Thorm to make her believe she is released and all gold is hers

House of Healing

Deceive the Sisters into killing each other
Deceive Malus Thorm into killing himself

The Waning Moon

Drink with Thisobald Thorm and tell him stories

Moonrise Towers

Sever the connection between Linsella and Barnabus
Tell Araj Oblodra that Astarion is his own person
At Araj Oblodra's offer, tell Astarion not to do anything he doesn't want to ( +5)
Kill Fezzerk without combat (with dialogue choice) after ordered by Ketheric Thorm
Ask Disciple Z'rell to show something real about what the Absolute has give her
Tell Ketheric Thorm that seeing your enemies cowed never gets old.

Gauntlet of Shar

Persuade Balthazar to give you the bell to summon Flesh
Tell him his scars must have hurt after the initial conversation with Raphael ( +1)
Kill Yurgir and talk to Raphael about it, then promise Astarion you'll help him kill Cazador
Tell him it's all part of the plan when he berates you for persuading Yurgir to let you look for something to help him out of his contract with Raphael ( +1)
Persuade Yurgir to murder his Merregon followers, his displacer beast, and himself ( +8)

Achieving this approval requires a ( -3) for talking with Yurgir and not attacking him immediately, netting in total of ( +5) as a result.

Camp/Conversation

When he mentions enlisting Raphael's help to understand what his scars mean, reply with, "Sure, makes sense."

Act Three

Act 3 Spoilers! This section reveals details about the story of Baldur's Gate 3.

Rivington

Volunteer Lae'zel, Halsin (or maybe any other companion) to Dribbles' show
Give Yenna coins or food
Resist the madness when accepting the monk's curse after delivering his amulet
Answer Zethino's questions correctly:

First Question: "When he's elbow deep in gore." ( +1)
Second Question: "Revenge" or (if romancing) "Me" ( +1)
Third Question: "Breaking a nail" or "Most things fear him, actually." ( +1)

Agree with Astarion that Ulma's children already dead when talking with Ulma in Gur Camp.
As a Baldurian, tell Saer Grotpoll that his accent sounds more Rivington than Baldur's Gate ( +1)
Get more money out of Danzo Arkwright when returning the Zhentarim letters ( +1)
Say "Woof" a second time to Mar'hyah ( +1)

Wyrm's Crossing

Accept the Deal with the Gnomes quest from Manip Falcäo
Tell Adventurer Drin in Fraygo's Flophouse that "'Adventurer' means nothing here anymore."
Pass the Investigation check to find the body in Fraygo's Flophouse during Solve the Open Hand Temple Murders questline.
In Wyrm's Rock Fortress, convince the Flaming Fist quartermaster to trade with you.
In Wyrm's Rock Fortress, tell Fist Reynash to get a grip.
In Wyrm's Rock Fortress, agree to watch Gortash coronation.
In Wyrm's Rock Fortress, escort Counsellor Florrick out of the prison.

House of Hope

Refuse to give your body or mind to Haarlep